You're all way overthinking it. This is exactly what I have in my van except the led's are RGBW and they are switched by three controllers all from the leisure battery.
They come on white when I turn on the cab light in the front
They dim up and down white when I open/close the doors
They dim up and down white from various pushbutton light switches through out the back of the van
They can be any colour controlled from RGB dimmers or smart phone.
All the controllers dim on the -ve side. The +ve side of the strip is connected straight to the leisure battery (Not the dimmers). The RGBW -ve connections go to the RGBW dimmers
There is then another white -ve connection to white dimmer packs
The BCM Brown/red is also connected to the white -ve
You might want to add a switch to the +ve of your Mi Light as it will constantly put a draw on your battery, even when the light are off.
No relays were envolved