Stop being so reactive at work

Totally agree. I miss my motorbike so much!

I gave mine up after mine was written off when a van took me out when filtering through traffic. Was totally the guys fault but he admitted that and his company (small local one) were really good about it too.

It was the 6 weeks of physio on my back from the awkward twist and landing, despite the sub 20 speed, which was the hardest to deal with.

Promised the Wife that it was my last bike and am honouring that.
 
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Rioja John said:
My last 9 years I worked for an housing association as a gas fitter on real good money and it was a joy working there, I was a workaholic and if my days work was finished early I would ring the office and ask if there were any emergency’s that needed attending, there were a couple of fly boys in the team who could do the talk but were bone idle especially the union rep.
Anyway the association paid a lot of money for a firm to come and inspect the company and tell the management what ways they could improve the company, the report came back that the 300 odd manual workers were excellent and that the company was over managed, what did the company do set more management on making up jobs deputy this and assistant that split the workers up with more line managers and it went really down bank. It also emerged that the chairwoman of said association had falsified all her CV and didn’t have any qualifications whatsoever, she suddenly disappeared with the excuse her parents were sick and needed looking after.
Then they bought pdas in whaching where you were checking work sheets and accusing me of holding work sheets back so that I could boost my next days work, I proved them wrong but enough was enough I gave them 3 months notice so that they could get a replacement but they put them many obstacles in front of me to stop me retiring but I stuck to my guns and a week before my retirement date they asked if I’d made my mind up with what I was doing I said I’m retiring next week as I told you with my three months notice, my manger said so you want me to notify wages department do you.
I lost a lot of money retiring 18 months early and living off savings until official retirement date but 13 years on it’s the best thing I did and wished I’d done it earlier.
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Ballsy John, respect 🫡
 
Just returned from a walk with a group. It was only short and only three of us, but im so happy I did it. Just to be with a couple of non judgy guys talking bollocks. You wouldnt believe how good I felt afterwards.

Agian blown away by the response from you all here. Enjoyed reading each and every reply. Thanks guys ❤️
 
Rioja John said:
My last 9 years I worked for an housing association as a gas fitter on real good money and it was a joy working there, I was a workaholic and if my days work was finished early I would ring the office and ask if there were any emergency’s that needed attending, there were a couple of fly boys in the team who could do the talk but were bone idle especially the union rep.
Anyway the association paid a lot of money for a firm to come and inspect the company and tell the management what ways they could improve the company, the report came back that the 300 odd manual workers were excellent and that the company was over managed, what did the company do set more management on making up jobs deputy this and assistant that split the workers up with more line managers and it went really down bank. It also emerged that the chairwoman of said association had falsified all her CV and didn’t have any qualifications whatsoever, she suddenly disappeared with the excuse her parents were sick and needed looking after.
Then they bought pdas in whaching where you were checking work sheets and accusing me of holding work sheets back so that I could boost my next days work, I proved them wrong but enough was enough I gave them 3 months notice so that they could get a replacement but they put them many obstacles in front of me to stop me retiring but I stuck to my guns and a week before my retirement date they asked if I’d made my mind up with what I was doing I said I’m retiring next week as I told you with my three months notice, my manger said so you want me to notify wages department do you.
I lost a lot of money retiring 18 months early and living off savings until official retirement date but 13 years on it’s the best thing I did and wished I’d done it earlier.
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I’ve just dropped into this thread and this post really resonates with me. I was in my 25th year working for the same company doing a job I loved. Or used to until a management team from a competitor moved in and things started to go downhill. Our region and team (mobile engineers) were consistently among the best performing and most efficient in the company and for the most part we were basically left alone to run the area ourselves. I’d get send a month’s worth of routine maintenances and would organise the work myself, fitting in breakdowns as and when. As with any national company with a lot of staff, there were some who didn’t pull their weight, instead of managing it by dealing with the bad eggs, the new management team decided to treat everyone as if we were all on the take. Long story short it all became a bit big brother - trackers were fitted in vehicles for our “safety”. One time I received an email from a manager asking why I was at home 30 mins before my finish time. My answer was I’d completed all the jobs for the day and there was no other work so what did he want me to do? I also asked why he conveniently didn’t mention that two days prior I left a job 90 minutes after my shift ended as I stayed to complete the job and didn’t book overtime as in my opinion in our line of work there had to be an element of give and take. More tech was introduced and it became so micro managed it made us more inefficient and took away everything I enjoyed about the job. At the time I was dealing with my mum who had dementia but who lived over an hour away from me - in the end it all became so stressful I handed my notice in and retired 18 months earlier than planned. Work had become unbearable and I hated the last two years. I’d just completed 25 years service when I left - without a word from any of the management / senior leadership which kind of summed up what the place had become. So many of the younger lads left and found other jobs.

It was a struggle financially until I got to state pension age but once I sorted my finances and company pension I bought a T6 and started enjoying life again. Best thing I ever did
 
Drive Wayne said:
I've been forced to use the (nippers) car the past few days, the 12 mile commute takes an hour and a half weekdays, on the bike half an hour with heavy traffic.
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Most of my career I commuted by bicycle about that distance. If it took as long as 50 minutes I was having a very bad day!

Best bit was, aside from helping me stay slim and sexy, I'd arrive home with my mind cleansed of the irrelevant nonsense of work. It was a good mental health aid. The fact that it was effectively free, there were no parking hassles, and it was quicker than driving were merely side benefits.

Strewth, in my prime (up until my mid 40s) I was a bodybuilder and would clycle each way and spend and hour in the gym at work every lunch time! Sadly I no longer have those energy levels, although I still walk or cycle where possible, and still lift light 3 times a week.
 
icn05 said:
I’ve just dropped into this thread and this post really resonates with me. I was in my 25th year working for the same company doing a job I loved. Or used to until a management team from a competitor moved in and things started to go downhill. Our region and team (mobile engineers) were consistently among the best performing and most efficient in the company and for the most part we were basically left alone to run the area ourselves. I’d get send a month’s worth of routine maintenances and would organise the work myself, fitting in breakdowns as and when. As with any national company with a lot of staff, there were some who didn’t pull their weight, instead of managing it by dealing with the bad eggs, the new management team decided to treat everyone as if we were all on the take. Long story short it all became a bit big brother - trackers were fitted in vehicles for our “safety”. One time I received an email from a manager asking why I was at home 30 mins before my finish time. My answer was I’d completed all the jobs for the day and there was no other work so what did he want me to do? I also asked why he conveniently didn’t mention that two days prior I left a job 90 minutes after my shift ended as I stayed to complete the job and didn’t book overtime as in my opinion in our line of work there had to be an element of give and take. More tech was introduced and it became so micro managed it made us more inefficient and took away everything I enjoyed about the job. At the time I was dealing with my mum who had dementia but who lived over an hour away from me - in the end it all became so stressful I handed my notice in and retired 18 months earlier than planned. Work had become unbearable and I hated the last two years. I’d just completed 25 years service when I left - without a word from any of the management / senior leadership which kind of summed up what the place had become. So many of the younger lads left and found other jobs.

It was a struggle financially until I got to state pension age but once I sorted my finances and company pension I bought a T6 and started enjoying life again. Best thing I ever did
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Great post and thanks for sharing it. Im glad you are enjoying life away from all that ridiculous nonesense. And like all who have posted its given me food for thought.
 
Life in this old dog.

Just successfully completed all my pre-appointment interviews and tests to become a Driving Test Examiner.....

Never thought I'd have a third career at my age....

Maybe the Civil Service are desperate ?
 
I'm totally reactive and it's not served me well in the world of work. I encourage you to work in a area where you have time to reflect before stressing. Or find a way to leave a gap between stimulus and reaction, but it's not easy. I spend a lot of time these days doing breathing exercises...

Totally recommend "Therapy in a Nutshell" on YouTube. Basically, it's your primal brain (over which you have little rational control) kicking off before your rational brain can get a grip. It's worse as you get older because of cortisol and just attrition. There's lots you can do but the best thing is have less shit in your life! Not managed that yet.
 
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