How you all feeling?

[shaiboyuk]

Hi all,

Been a while since I posted in group, due to being separated and getting divorced, kinda withdraw from things and really been low.

Need to get van sorted for going away with my daughter in july for two weeks, but trying to pick myself up and get the energy to do things each day, between having my daughter and working too.

Hows everyone else, had a wee search and not really seen anyone else talk about mental health etc.

Its good to talk

Paul

 

[DXX]

Pecker up mate, might not seem like it now but not only do things get better they can be much better than they were before.
I have plenty of friends male and female who should have divorced years ago, they are not enjoying themselves and no sign of an end to it.
Enjoy you hol’s with your daughter.

 

[Fin5150]

Hope you’re doing OK mate. Sorry to read of your sad circumstances. Am sure brighter days will follow for you though. Keep yer chin up and make the holiday with your daughter a magic one she will always remember.

 

[Sasquatch]

Crap. Got the news late last evening a friend of mine had passed away. He went for a nap and never woke up, so probably not the worst way to go but still a poor alternative to not being dead.

Because of the timing it was churning in my mind all night and I didnt sleep well, and now feel tired as well as upset.

 

[shaiboyuk]

Crap. Got the news late last evening a friend of mine had passed away. He went for a nap and never woke up, so probably not the worst way to go but still a poor alternative to not being dead.

Because of the timing it was churning in my mind all night and I didnt sleep well, and now feel tired as well as upset.

Sorry to hear that mate, sending some man hugs. sure its very raw. horrible, but at least it was peaceful, I know that doesn't help everyone around. lack of sleep isnt great mate, take care, here if you need to talk in pm.

 

[Sasquatch]

Im ok, but thanks,for caring. The sentiment is appreciated.

 

[DaveD]

Its good to talk

Such an important and well made point.
I fear that many people are just too busy with earning a living or dealing with other things that it is often forgotten. Many of us are helping elderly parents as well as trying to support adult offspring, adding to the pressure.
It's important to spend time with friends too.
Just my opinion but as a 60 year old man I've never known a time when so many men my age are struggling.

 

[MorkC68]

I was in your position back in 2005, split up from the now ex-wife. We have two daughters who she poisoned and alienated from me.

Live moved on and met Michelle mid-2006, she had split up from her now ex-husband. We have been together since then, we have some wonderful friends spread around various places. We have had some amazing adventures so far.

What I am trying to say is get your head around what has happened and try to look forward not back..it is challenging as I am sure others will agree.

You will find happiness, I'm sure! It may not feel that way right now!

All the best!

 

[Salty Spuds]

Im ok, but thanks,for caring. The sentiment is appreciated.

As well as wasting passing time on here, I’m also on a “epic retirement” group on FB. The number of people that can afford to retire at 55/60 but don’t through fear of the unknown is disturbing. We were lucky enough to retire at 55 and are now in our early 60’s, I’m laid on a beach in Royan as I type this, 7 weeks into a van tour of Spain and France. I know of so many people that worked until the end and dropped dead months or a few years later. It’s never too early to retire if you can manage financially, and even then, you need less than you think.

 

[Sasquatch]

Aye, walking away at 55 and taking a huge risk (bunged a chunk of my commutation into bitcoin and did nicely) was the best days work I ever did. There isnt enough money or perks in the world to get me back in the rat race.

 

[Macp]

Thanks for asking dude. Well im trying to not be one of those strong silent types as im currently signed off. But im getting a lot of help and im doing ok.