You will get an alarm up when the engine is ready for a regen, picture of the DPF and a message. Best thing to do is not leave it to long but get out on to a decent bit of road and just run it at about 3000 rpm, light will go out when the DPF has cleared 20 mins or so. Your short journeys are the problem as the exhaust is not getting hot enough for long enough, but they don't tell you this when you are buying a modern diesel. My A4 blinded its DPF eventually so I removed the DPF cut the end off and drilled the guts out, welded end back on, blanked off EGR and got car remapped. Difference was chalk and cheese, car was so much better to drive. Still passed MOT on emissions but does smoke when pushed hard.
Baz