You will struggle to get tyres that are wide enough to protect the actual rims, unless you go for oversized balloons which will ruin the look of the wheel.
What you might be better off doing is fitting the 'ideal' size tyres to the rims.
To explain: 235/40s on a 9.5" wheel are going to look nice and have a bit of stretch, but as you've found out, the expose the rim edges. Where as the 'ideal' size will be between 255 and even 265s. This will get the tyre sitting more level, then it's more a case of finding which brand of tyre had the best rim protection built into the tyre, because they vary vastly.
Same principal on the rears: 255s look nice, but again, expose the rims too much. 'Ideal' widths for a 10.5" is 275 but that will depend on the offset because some 275s can rub, so 265s are slightly more popular on a T6.
Get the tyre size correct, and pop into a local tyre shop to look who's tyres have the best rim protection.
Sorry there isn't an easy answer to your question.
Oh and I hate to point out the obvious, but if your wife kerbed all 4 wheels in a week, then regardless on what you do with your tyres and even with the best rim protection, the likelihood is she will kerb them again. The rim protection is only a reinforced edge to the tyre, but it is only rubber and will loose in a battle between the weight of a T6 and a kerb.
PS.
This will help you with tyre sizes
Tyre Size for Rim Size/Width Calculator - What's the best tyre size for my rim?